Don't be a dummy.

Today's post is a simple request:

Please do not drink & drive.  

Every minute, one person is injured from an alcohol-related crash. www.MADD.org

I urge you not to be a statistic.  If you have a few cocktails with friends, call a friend or a cab for a ride home.  Don't drive.  Leave your car where it is and get it the next day.  If I live nearby, you can always call me.  Life is too short to ruin with an irresponsible act.

Happy Halloween.

xoxo 

Hello. How Are You?

Ok, I'm going to say it.  Our social skills are taking a nose dive.  Unless you live in a cave without any electronic devices, then my finger is pointing at you too.

With facebook, texting, instant messaging and email we think that we are no longer required to actually speak to another person.  Admittedly, I'm guilty of sending a text or email vs. picking up the phone to speak to someone.  However, I also work all day in complete isolation so when I am around other humans, I can appreciate the simple joy of laughter and conversation.

Today, I decided my "daily act" mission was going to be to interact with strangers.  I had a staff meeting and a couple of errands to run around lunch time so it was the perfect opportunity to put my actions into place.  

Mission #1- a neighbor (whom I don't know) stepped into the elevator wearing a cute designer dress and heels.  Upon her entering the elevator I said, "cute dress".  She returned the compliment with a thank you and even said "have a good day" as she excited the elevator.  I promise, it wasn't a creepy interaction, I was normal and nice and I think she appreciated someone noticing the cute dress that that she probably spent WAY too much for.

Mission #2- while the Rite Aid cashier was ringing me out for TP and Cat Liter, I asked her how her day has been.  She stopped in her tracks, looked up with a smile and said in a tone of surprise and enthusiasm, "Great, it's beautiful outside. Thanks for asking."  

It's highly likely that I'm over analyzing the results of my missions, but please don't rain on my parade.  As I see it, everyone needs a compliment, a hello or a simple acknowledgment from time to time.   I frequently remind myself that you just never know what a stranger may be going through.  By simply being kind and reaching out to someone you may have changed the direction that their day was going. 

And so I leave you with a quote from Uncle Billy, "You attract more bees with honey than vinegar."  Be kind to others... 

The Chotchkie Queen.

My recent donation of blankets and jackets to the Rescue Mission inspired me to do more cleaning around the house. We live in a small place so stuff builds up quickly.  And "apparently" my friends think that I'm a chotchkie collector.  What's a chotchkie?  Well, according to Urban Dictionary, it's a "A small piece of worthless crap, a decorative knick knack with little or no purpose."  To me, each and every chotchkie in my home has sentimental value thus the enormous collection of stuff.  

With the holidays approaching that means gifts and more chotchkies will be entering the home.  What better time to organize and clean out old, unused household items than now?  So, this past weekend, I "de-chotchkied" the house, packed up the old stuff and today I dropped off my treasures to the nearest Goodwill.  Not only does today's act give me "good points" for donating items, but the hubby is very happy about the clutterless house and the tax write-off!  So, it's a win-win.  

If I can leave you with any advice it would be, don't just throw those old treasures in the trash- donate them.  There are many organizations that will take those goods and many people out there that will get good use out of your treasures.  

For a Goodwill near you: http://locator.goodwill.org/

Holiday Helpers

An old friend recently asked me how to find volunteer opportunities for the holiday season.  I took this as a great time to share some really handy sites that list volunteer opportunities.  I think one of the biggest misconceptions with volunteering is that it has to be a long-term commitment.  The reality is that many organizations are looking for help for a specific event or for temporary time frame.

I personally love VolunteerSanDiego.org because you can choose long-term or short-term opportunities, you can search by a specific organization and they will even list if a particular opportunity is kid-friendly.  If you aren't in the San Diego area, I'm sure there's a similar site in your area.  Simply search for volunteer opportunities + (your city or zip) for local sites.

Here are some handy sites to help get you started...

http://www.allforgood.org/

http://www.volunteermatch.org/

http://www.idealist.org/if/as/vol

http://www.volunteersandiego.org

Please let me know if you decide to sign up for a volunteer opportunity.  
I'd love to join you!

A True Act of Selflessness

I recently ran into my good friend Stacy and I immediately noticed something different.  Her hair!  She used to have beautiful long black locks and now she has a smart, sophisticated bob.  I asked her what inspired her to make the big change and the story is truly amazing.  Here's Stacy's story...

In March 2009 I got engaged to be married. Along with thinking about a dress, flowers, and wedding cake, I had to think about the hairstyle I wanted for my “big day”. I decided to begin the process of growing my hair out so I would have more styling options on my wedding day. Little did I know then, that my dream of having long locks for the wedding photos would turn into something much more meaningful.

"Before"

A few months after the engagement, my mom was diagnosed with breast cancer. Luckily it was stage one and treatable - early detection saved her life! My mom bravely endured chemotherapy and radiation treatments. In the scheme of things her hair loss seemed minor, but she was still concerned about how she, as the “mother of the bride”, would look in wedding photos.

When my wedding day rolled around, less than a year later, my mom was grateful to have a natural looking wig to wear. Even though she’s beautiful with or without hair, her mind was at ease knowing she’d have “cute hair” on my wedding day.

Stacy with her Mom on her wedding day.

After the wedding and honeymoon had passed, the time came to for me to get my hair cut. I had been growing it out for a year and I was ready for a new look. I had heard from a friend about a program called Pantene Beautiful Lengths (www.Pantene.com/BeautifulLengths) which takes donated hair and uses it to make wigs for people fighting cancer. I knew what I had to do… my extra eight inches of hair would be cut and donated to a great cause!

It’s been a month since I made the cut and donated my hair, and I’m so happy I had the opportunity to do so. I hope my donated hair will help make a wig that another brave women can proudly wear... maybe even to her daughter’s wedding!

 
 
Stacy, thank you for being a true inspiration.  My hope is that your story will inspire others to make sacrifices for the good of helping those in need.  By the way, your new hair-do looks great!!

Be Kind to Mother Earth...

Today my act of kindest is in honor of our dear Mother Earth.  It's very simple.  I went to the grocery store and I used my recycled grocery bags.  

FACT:

Plastic ends up in landfills and sadly, many plastic grocery bags end up blown into rivers, lakes and the sea. Animals then eat the plastic bags or get caught in them resulting in the death of many thousands of animals, fish and birds every year. 

As an animal lover, once I read that fact, I never looked back.  Here are some great reusable bags that are both stylish and functional:

http://www.petunia.com/collections/original/shoppertotes/

http://www.horchow.com/store/catalog/prod.jhtml?itemId=cprod39690021&ecid=HCCIGoogleFeed&003=5841029&010=H33YU&ci_src=14110944&ci_sku=H33YU

BONUS!

If you use your recycled grocery bags at Trader Joe's, you get to enter into a raffle for a free shopper tote and a $25 gift certificate.

See! Now you have no excuse. Recycle & Reuse.

The Cold, Wet Streets...

I awoke this morning to the first good rain in San Diego this Fall.  I love rain.  I love the drops hitting against the window of my office and the feeling of comfort and shelter.  

So, as I rolled out of bed and I turned on the news.  The first segment of the news was this:  http://www.sandiego6.com/mediacenter/local.aspx?videoId=856000@xetv.web.entriq.net&navCatId=5

I was immediately struck by the young, pregnant woman in the news segment.  Sadly, she lost her job 3 years ago and has been on the streets ever since with her disabled husband.  I could tell that she didn't want to be on the streets, but was left with no other option.  I was heart broken and immediately asked myself what can I do?  

I may not be able to single-handedly get this couple off the streets, but while our city is dealing with bureaucratic B.S. and stalling the set up of a temporary winter homeless shelter I decided that I can at the very least help keep some people warm.  Over lunch with my husband, I shared the idea of going through our closets and donating old towels, blankets and jackets.  He loved the idea and collectively, we went through closets seeking out old items.  

While it isn't much more than a few blankets, towels and jackets, it's something and I feel a small sense of comfort knowing that I'm doing my part to help some people stay warm this winter.  

If you have items that you can donate too, Google {homeless shelter + the name of your city} and drop 'em off at your local shelter.  If you're in the San Diego area: http://www.sdrescue.org/howtohelp/giftsinkind.php

What are YOU doing?

This past weekend I was fortunate enough to spend quality time with great friends.  Over some delicious wine, we started sharing "what's new" in our lives.  Maybe, I'm just fortunate enough to have some really amazing friends, but I discovered an interesting parallel in each of our lives-each person in our group had recently "done good"- whether it be running an errand for a friend in need or walking in a philanthropy walk, good is being shared.  I think if we recognize the good that we all do, we will want more.  It will become contagious, but in a really good way.  

And so, I ask you, what good things have you done lately?   Keep up the good work.

Cancer Sucks!!!

A little over a year ago, my best friend, Kathi, shared some very sad news with me.  Kathi's childhood friend Catou was fighting for her life battling brain cancer.  Catou is only 36 years old.  

Kathi and a group of friends (old & new) have rallied around Catou over the past year and cheered her on during her treatment process.  Christmas parades, slumber parties and nights out all in an effort to keep Catou's spirits high during a typically dark, difficult time of illness, needles and endless doctor appointments. Catou's fight continues and her support group is growing by the minute.  

In the United States, over 575 people are diagnosed with a brain tumor every day.  I repeat, every day. 

This is unacceptable.  We have got to fight in honor of innocent victims like Catou and put an end to this horrible disease.  Kathi and friends are joining Catou tomorrow morning in Huntington Beach at the Southern California Brain Tumor Walk.  In honor of Catou and others affected by brain cancer, I ask you to please donate now.  A $5 or $10 donation will make a difference.

Please donate.

http://www.braintumorcommunity.org/site/TR/Events/BTW-HB?px=2218685&pg=personal&fr_id=1590

Thank you.  Your support is the ultimate act of kindness.
xoxo

Adios!

I know that I've only been writing this blog briefly, but I already have to excuse myself for a few days.  I'm headed to "Sin City" for 6 days of business.  Sounds fun and it is, but it's also a lot of work.  Realistically, I don't think that I will have time to blog while I'm there so I decided to temporarily say farewell!  I'll be back next Friday with lots of "good" things to talk about.  xoxo

Lean on Me.

Be present. Listen. Support. 

I remind myself of these simple words all the time.  The reality is, these are the most challenging things for me to do.  Life has been really busy lately- out of control busy and when life gets like this, these words become less familiar and more distant. 

Lately, my "busy life" has consisted of carpet swatches, paint colors, travel plans and work.  Last night I received an unexpected phone call that I believe was a message from the universe reminding me of what's really important. 

My neighbor called to invite me to a party that she's calling the "stop me from jumping over the balcony party"- this neighbor is a bit eccentric so the name of the party didn't surprise me.  What did surprise me was this friendly phone exchange and an invitation to the party since I'm accustomed to her yelling at me for accidentally dripping water on to her balcony from watering my plants.  Five minutes into the conversation, she  admitted that the party is to celebrate the birthday of her late husband who passed away unexpectedly last Spring.  Ugh. My heart sank.

I immediately became more attentive- she needs someone to listen to her and to support her. At that moment, I realized that the ultimate act of kindness is simply being there for someone else. 

Being present. Listening. Supporting. 

I'm starting to feel a little uncomfortable about writing about myself and you're probably sick of reading about me so I figured why not start sharing other people's acts of kindness too!  

About a year ago, I re-connected with an old junior high school friend, Juliet, on Facebook.  I was immediately drawn to the amazing family unit that she has and the wonderful, thoughtful things that they do for each other and others in their community.  This past summer, the Marshall's started fostering animals and so I thought it would be wonderful to feature them for today's blog.  Meet the Marshall's...

What can I say about the Marshall Crew? We are very active, happy and friendly family with 4 kids ages 7,10,13,14. We moved from San Diego 4 years ago where we were raising our 4 kids and 2 dogs in a townhouse that had no yard. We literally had 200 sq ft each in that house and it was suffocating. Moving was the best thing we ever did. We are now in Colorado and the kids and dogs can run and throw the ball as hard as they can and it still won't go over the fence. This yard we have was perfect for our active labradoodle Ruby. Sadly, she died unexpectedly by swallowing a rope chew toy. We were all so upset that getting a new puppy sounded painful. How could any dog be as good as her? She was perfect.

Early in the summer we all went in to Petco looking at turtles. The cutest group of puppies caught our eye as did the adorable little southern lady Debra who was answering questions about how to adopt them. With 4 kids in tow, of course we stopped to hold them and get a whiff of that delicious puppy breath.

 After talking with the puppy lady, we learned that PupSavers rescues puppies from kill shelters in New Mexico and Kansas. The shelters are in low income cities and simply do not have the budget to hang on to dogs for extended lenths of time. She told us that for every puppy you foster, you actually save 2 pups. One you foster and the other has a spot to be rescued. We immediately decided that fostering would be something we'd love to do.

What's the commitment when fostering?
Puppies are driven from NM to petco where you pick out your puppy on Tuesday night and keep them until adoption day on Saturday morning. The pups would have been put down on Wednesday had they not been taken on Tuesday. This is a big deal for them. They provide food, meds, kennels, collars, etc. You provide the TLC.

One of the hardest and rewarding parts to fostering go hand in hand. When the pups arrive they are covered in poop, pee, and throw up. They are tired, scared and thirsty. Some are covered in scabs, ticks, sick and super skinny. This part is horrific and heartbreaking. BUT.... you get that puppy home. You give him a bath, food, water and within one hour....one hour... the puppy is different and so are you. This is the moment you realize what you've done for this puppy and for your kids. Everyone's hearts grow.

After a few months of fostering neighbors would go on their nightly walks and my front yard was the hot spot to stop. We'd be outside with a different puppy or two each week to visit and gush over. Towards the end of August, I got the email from PupSavers we were short fosters. It was Tuesday morning and we had 10 puppies who didn't fosters. I put a small blurb on my facebook we needed help at 7 pm and to go to Petco if anyone could help. I couldn't believe my eyes! 6:45 and in comes my friend Karen, then I see Sharon, Kelly Tammy and Rochelle. They each took two pups! They have all been consistent fosters since. Gone are the days of Gymboree, it's all about the puppy playdates now.

Is it hard to say goodbye on adoption day? Sure, until you see the faces of the young couple who has been waiting for a puppy. Or the family who is ready for their family pet. Or the truck driver who wants a co-pilot. Or the lady who lost her pet and is finally ready for a new one. We adopted our 7th foster puppy. He has been a blessing to us and I often think how lucky we are that Debra put him in the van. To think he would have been put down.
Fostering is a gift to everyone involved and I strongly recommend you find a local rescue to foster for. You won't regret it. 

Thank you Juliet and Marshall Family!  Your acts of kindness don't go unnoticed and I'm sure those adorable furry friends appreciate all that you do.  If there's anything I can leave you with, it's to remember that doing good for others can be fun and rewarding!    

The wheels are turning...

It's Day 2 and I'm already having a mental block as far as what "act of kindness" I can do today.  Maybe I'm putting to much pressure on myself or my expectations are too high.  I mean, does it count that I got up at 5:15am this morning to take my husband to the airport? Or do I always have to be doing something that is life changing for strangers?  I work from home so some days I don't even leave house!  Ok, ok.  Let me rethink this.  Kindness is kindness and no matter what it is or who it is for, if it's a selfless act then it counts.  Whew, pressure has already been lifted.

Although I may not accomplish an earth shattering act today, I have recently done some planning to set myself up for future acts of kindness.   The wheels are turning!

First, I contacted the local Community Housing Works (http://www.chworks.org/) to make sure that they are hosting the annual holiday adopt-a-family.  I just received an email back that they are and that I'm on the list to get future updates.  Last year a group of friends & family collectively adopted 3 families and provided them with Christmas gifts and meals- it was one of the most rewarding holidays that I've had in a very long time.  I'm really looking forward to this year and my hope is that we can take on another family or two.  Sadly, there are a lot of families out there in dire need. 

Second, I'm considering joining a friend to help with Meals On Wheels.  The only catch is there's an orientation and I'm going to be traveling for business when the next orientation takes place.  Hopefully, I can attend the one at the end of the month as I would really like to get involved with this great organization.  I learned as a child (when my church group used to sing holiday songs at the homes of elder "shut ins") that there are many people out there who are unable to care or provide for themselves.  Often they are forgotten.

Last, and most near and dear to me is Angels for Hearts (www.angelsforhearts.org). My dear friend and lifelong sorority sister started this amazing philanthropy to help bring joy and happiness to children with heart illnesses.  If you read the story about Kim on the website you will quickly understand why she is truly an inspiration to me. 

The organization is based in Sacramento and with our college roots being in San Diego, I have volunteered to help raise money and/or collect gifts down here.  A West Coast Ambassador of sorts.  If you want to help me, email me or call me.  The more gifts we can collect, the brighter smiles from the kids! 

Well, at least I have some volunteer work in plans. I think I'll give myself an "E" for effort...

The Magic of the Brussel Sprout.

I'm a little unsure at this point if I will be able to pull off an act of kindness each and every day. I mean, I think I do nice things, but to be nice every day can be difficult (especially when I'm in a MOOD). That said, I plan to ease into this process.  Today, which is officially Day 1 of my adventure, I have already completed my one act which makes me think that I can probably sneak in a couple more by the end of the day...

So it all started with the dreadful brussel sprout.  Who would think that the strange-looking vegetable that turns the noses of many would have a hand in any sort of act of kindness but it did.  I was entering the produce section at my local grocery store when suddenly a produce bag full of brussel sprouts exploded out the bottom of a bag carried by an elder gentleman.  With brussel sprouts all over the floor, the gentleman immediately panicked and proceeded to look for help from a grocery store employee.  As he was asking a man if he worked there, many other patrons were stepping over the sprouts and staring as if they had never seen a mishap or a spill at a grocery store before- it was the first time that I had noticed how useless people can be.  Perhaps they were embarrassed to step in and lend a hand or perhaps they just don't know how to begin helping or perhaps the world we live in (i.e. the bubbles we live in) don't allow room for us to get off of our soap boxes to help a stranger.  I immediately realized this simple, minor incident was a great opportunity to step in and help.  

As the elder man stepped away to seek help from a grocery store employee, I bent down and started picking up the brussel sprouts and placing them back into the display area.  After staring for a moment, 2 other patrons stepped in and started helping too.  Maybe I'm reading too much into this, but it was almost as if they were waiting for "approval" to step in and help.   

Eventually, the elder man noticed that we had cleaned up the spill and headed back to his cart.  As he approached us, he expressed his gratitude and explained that he was unable to bend down to pick up the mess himself.  I acknowledged his gratitude and went along my way.  

It was a very simply act of kindness, but it felt really good to help someone in need and to see how well others responded.  I think I'm going to learn a lot from this blog...

The virgin blogger.

This is my first blog entry....ever.  

For many months now, my husband, has encouraged me to create a blog to express the endless ideas and thoughts that pass through my mind.  I have always enjoyed writing, but didn't want to write without a purpose. This past weekend, while awaiting our order at a local Mexican restaurant, I announced to Louie that I have finally found my purpose.  Welcome to The Daily Act.

I have philanthropy in my blood and was raised volunteering throughout my childhood whether it be holding post at a bake sale with my brownie troop to raise money for a local organization to singing holiday carols at a senior daycare center, I love helping others.  This love for helping others has carried with me and so I have decided commit to a least one act of kindness daily.  This sounds simple, right?  I mean, it's easy to be nice to people, but often we forget to go out of our way for someone in need or a complete stranger. That's my plan- to help others and share my experiences.

The purpose of my blog isn't to guilt you into doing things that you don't want to do, but my hope is that my acts will naturally encourage you to do good and help others.

And so here it goes...